Sunday, January 27, 2008

Good Mummy/Bad Mummy....and perceptions

Funny how I can be one thing to one daughter and the opposite to another.

Miss 3 inherited a pair of "My Little Pony" boxer shorts. Unfortunately, she is on the lean side, and the shorts elastic had stretched. Big sister tried to throw them out because they were "No good for you any more, put them in the bin."

Dear miss 3 got dressed today and refused to be without the boxers. I told her I would try to fix them.....after I had eaten breakfast and finished my coffee.

She asked me at LEAST 20 times if I was finished. In the end, I got the roll of elastic out, measured her waist and unpicked a little of the waistband to put new elastic in.

I didn't take the old elastic out, it was well sewn in. I just ran the new elastic in, using a safety pin to pull it through. It took me two tries to get the elastic the right length...miss 3 IS lean.

Sew up the waist band again, and I get "I LUFF you mummy!"

Next is miss ten. She is also lean....and TALL. "I need a new school dress"

"Why?"

"Cos I got this one last year...." I am not going to spend $40 on a new dress, I am letting the hem down.

"I HATE you, you NEVER buy me new things, I'm the ONLY one in school who won't have a new dress....."

........did I mention she is ONLY 10?

I freely admit that I repair my kid's clothes when I can. I replace buttons, darn holes, replace elastic, and take hems up or down. Simple stuff.

But, I have been asked if I am in dire circumstances, if I HAVE to do these things.

Many years ago, (miss 19 was about 2 and a half), she outgrew her favourite overalls, and she cried for ages. I put flowery fabric cuffs on the bottom, lengthened the straps (with dark elastic) and re-covered the denim pocket with the cuff fabric.

A few days later, I received 2 bags of clothes from an aquaintance. She didn't realise that we were "so short of money, that I had to alter the overalls"

She didn't 'get' it. The implication was that I did it out of necessity, not just to please my daughter

Now days, I regularly bundle up the "still good" clothes my kids outgrow and either pass them on to other mums I know, or give them to a Charity.

which reminds me.........miss 3's fairy dress needs fixing will have to go to large chain store and buy some tulle.....the stuff it was made from tore VERY quickly. (I actually wouldn't bother, but she got it with her fairy wings, and EVERYONE knows.....you CAN'T be a fairy with wings and no skirt!!) LOL

Gratitudes

knowing how to repair small "emergencies"
knowing that miss 10 will "hate" me a lot more in the coming years
also knowing that I am NOT the only mother who says "NO"!
loving all my kids, no matter what they say (or do)
if this is as bad as it gets?? I'm doing OK!

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